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Newlyweds of the Day #2407

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Newlyweds of the Day #2407

I take these photos with the hope of encapsulating the day with them – bundling up everything into one image that says what it was like to be alive today. The archetypical image for a wedding is probably of the couple kissing at the altar, or perhaps walking down the aisle together after the ceremony, but shots like that are better left to the professional photographer, who must move as if she is invisible, a wraith summoned to preserve the moment while everyone else lives it.

So this shot of Brian and Shoshana dancing with one of the little nieces who attended will have to do, even if the little niece is obscured here. I managed to catch their smiles, and that is enough for me.

It makes me really happy to see them like this.

This was a long day of preparations for the ceremony, and because I was not a part of the wedding I watched from the sidelines as people scrambled about to get everything ready. No such event would be complete without some minor disaster, so the chuppah kindly filled this requisite when it proved too big to mount in the tiny sand pots we had available. Two of Brian’s friends rushed to the hardware store for bigger buckets and more sand, and managed to return just in time for the group photos, which had fortuitously run late. It was such a huge wave of convoluted logistics to get everything together, but as Brian said – without all these rituals we wouldn’t have the magic.

The ceremony began with the Concerning Hobbits theme, and both families came out like the heroes they are. Shoshana walked the aisle with smiles and tears, and I finally understood why people cry at weddings.

Brian has been a very good friend to me, always thoughtful and inquisitive, full of interesting questions that pushed me to consider things in ways that made the world a richer place to experience. It was wonderful to see him exchange vows with Soshana, their voices tremulous and happy, overflowing with love.

No bouquet was thrown, but at the end of the ceremony chocolate truffles were passed out to all the guests, who were asked to throw them at the couple as they exited. Brian actually caught mine, and I feel like that ought to mean something.

I didn’t know any of Brian’s friends there, though most of them knew each other. It hadn’t occurred to me how I’ve only really interacted with Brian as a single entity; our social spheres meet at a tangent. In a ceremony hosting a hundred and twenty people, I felt like a very small part of Brian’s life, and it was an honor to be there.

I talked with some of Brian and Shoshana’s friends throughout the evening – all intelligent, friendly people, and I wish I had more time to get to know them.

After the Horah and the couple’s first dance as newlyweds, the guests were invited to dance as well. I stood at first on the sidelines, of course, but Brian dragged me bodily onto the dance floor, where I really had quite a lot of fun. I had a conversation with another stranger there, dancing nonsense dances as we talked about our lives and how we knew the newlyweds.

This is the first wedding I’ve been to where I actually knew the couple, where I actually felt I could participate and celebrate them. Brian and Shoshana are wonderful people both, and they are surrounded by many other wonderful people, and from here forwards I’m sure many more lovely stories will unfold for the two of them.

where you end and I begin

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April 26, 2015 at 1:23 am

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Photo of the Day #2303

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Photo of the Day #2303

Brian has been around for a bit, but completely occupied with family and the holidays, so it’s been a while since we’ve talked at all. By chance I thought to send him a message today, and I caught him just in time – we had one small window to meet before he goes off across the country again.

So he came over for conversation and video games, and it was good. With everyone perpetually busy, that’s the best we can hope for; I’ll see him again in a few months, on a perhaps very important day.

a lost art of study

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January 12, 2015 at 12:45 am

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Blank of the Day #2084

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Blank of the Day #2084

I took this photo just after Brain made some quip and his friend Peter turned to me with a grin, and I made a mental note at the moment to remember what had just been said.

But, I’ve forgotten. The words are gone, but the aftermath remains.

I do remember other things we talked about today – academia, game design, Superman, the Midas- and Skittles-touch, cyberpunk tropes, Brian’s family and upcoming wedding – so my mind wasn’t totally blank today.

This is the only time I’ll see Brian during his visit back to California, and soon he’ll return to work on his thesis. He’s always full of interesting thoughts to throw around – it’s good to see him when I can.

the sky was a woman’s arms

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June 7, 2014 at 12:08 am

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Captain of the Day #1911

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Captain of the Day #1911

Brian’s first break from grad school has just started, and I’m glad to hear he’ll be spending it around Berkeley. This meant lots of video games tonight; you can see how this one likes to show off the player’s Game Face to anyone who might be watching.

It sounds like Brian’s life is really moving along, and I’m suddenly much more aware of us all growing up. We’ll do it right, I’d bet.

we’ll always find a way

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December 16, 2013 at 1:46 am

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Anecdote of the Day #1754

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Anecdote of the Day #1754

It’s often best to part company with a story – a slice of someone’s life to ruminate on as you head home. After a successful (see: thoroughly tiring) session at Bridges, Brian shared his experience teaching kids this week, and how the boxcutter used for crafts – off-limits to the children – became a thing of legend because of how emphatically Brian had forbidden it.

Albany Hill is always here to greet me as I head home, an odd little bubble of magical forest towering above the sprawled city. It’s a lovely sight, whether hidden in fog or glowing in the sun; someday soon I’d like to go see what’s hiding in those trees.

softly spoken magic spell

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July 12, 2013 at 2:02 am

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Constant of the Day #1749

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Constant of the Day #1749

Sibling warfare seems to never come to an end. Brian and his sister Jessica battled tonight over control of their respective gadgets, no doubt mirroring dozens of such spats from throughout their childhood. Being reasonable adults now, they can squabble like this with no ill will; the struggle here is something like an homage to their time growing together, and shows how well they get along.

What I really like about this is that, in any other context, these two would be perfectly calm, mild-mannered folk; siblings bring out a part of them that you never see otherwise. Myles and Milena are the same – typically quiet, gentle, amiable people, they always end up screaming and rassling when they spend time together. When you grow up with someone, they’re forever a link to childhood and all of its squabbles, it seems.

My sister and I don’t have this same sort of relationship. Perhaps it’s a matter of age gap – there’s something very special about growing up alongside a person, and a few years’ distance might flatten out any rivalries that would otherwise build up.

I’m really fond of people. Tonight was a good night.

torvus bog

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July 7, 2013 at 3:19 am

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Climbers of the Day #1743

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Climbers of the Day #1743

I know Brian and Esther from very different social spheres, but both went to UC Santa Cruz and both have been fellow climbers in the plastic mountains. This is the first time I’ve met with both at once, and these little social intersections are always fun to see. Conversation somehow lead to diet and metabolism, and Brian did his best to explain the underlying biochemical processes.

It’s quite possible these two will never meet again! But there’s something valuable there, even when lives meet only at a tangent.

wake up the dying

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July 1, 2013 at 2:32 am

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